Beautiful Message

Stay away from Anger.

 

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  It hurts ..Only You!

 

 If you are right then there is no need to get angry,

 

 And if you are wrong then you don't have any right to get angry.

 

 Patience with family is love,

 

 Patience with others is respect.

 

 Patience with self is confidence and Patience with GOD is faith.

 

 Never Think Hard about the PAST, It brings Tears...

 

 Don't think more about the FUTURE, It brings Fear...

 

 Live this Moment with a Smile,It brings Cheer.

 

Every test in our life makes us bitter or better,

 

 Every problem comes to make us or break us,

 

 The choice is ours whether we become victims or victorious.

 

 Beautiful things are not always good but good things are always beautiful

 

 Do you know why God created gaps between fingers?

 

 So that someone who is special to you comes and fills those gaps by holding your hand forever.

 

 Happiness keeps You Sweet..But being sweet brings happiness.

Do Share it with all the beautiful People In ur Life.

 

Manji ik tey jawanian do (One Bed And Two Hot Youngsters)

The moral degeneration of the West is complete and comprehensive. The lack of any moral and ethical principles and a culture of wine, sex and nudity would shortly destroy the whole Western civilization.

This is your host Agha Mohammad Yahya Khan from channel ‘HAQ’ and we are going to discuss the moral bankruptcy of the West.

Today we have our panelists; the emergent threat to the West Mr. Zaid Hamid, the great ‘transformer’ and PhD in Hadis Sciences Ms. Farhat Hashmi of al-Huda fame, a PhD from some obscure Spanish university, Dr. Aamir Liaqat Hussain, and the great champion of political Islam or Islamic politics Molvi Munawar Hassan of Jamaat-e-Islami. We also have master craftsman Molvi Fazal-ur-Rahman and the saintly actress Nargis who has recently performed Haj. We also have Dr. Shaitan, an atheist, as an analyst.

Yahya: Zaid Saab what do you think of the moral decline of the Western society?

Zaid Hamid: The West has gone to dogs and that foreshadows the complete dominance of Islam over the West. Look at the obscene dresses their women put on. They wear micro skirts. Have you seen the deep V front party dress? Or the low rise hot pants. And those sexualized undergarments like the hipster, the boy shorts or the G-string. Oh my God those morally corrupt people are doomed.

Farhat Hashmi: They also kiss in public. Didn’t you see Prince William kissing Kate Middleton in front of the whole world? Is it not pornography? Thank God it was not a French kiss or a Tongue kiss.

Dr.Shaitan: But Sir in almost half the Muslim countries women do wear skirts and that is part of their culture. Even in Muslim societies we find cultural differences. A Bengali woman in a sari with a visible belly cannot even think of exposing her legs. On the other hand a Tajik woman would hide her belly but would find it absolutely normal to wear a skirt and expose her legs, while both are Muslims. Kissing in public is also a cultural norm, so please do not confuse culture with obscenity. As for female undergarments you don’t need to worry about them, they don’t hurt you.

Dr Aamir Liaqat: They also make blue prints and XXX films. This is height of moral degradation. They are spoiling us and the whole world.

Dr. Shaitan: Sir, blue prints are not meant for everybody. In the West they make sure through law that these are not accessible to young children. However, I suppose the local theatre in Lahore and other cities which have lot of sex is perhaps accessible to everybody and there is no age limit. Desi blue prints are also available in almost all our video markets. I do remember the BP’s of Hala Farooqui and Ayesha Shahbaz of NCA Lahore which had become very popular in the 80’s. Perhaps they were made here. I also remember X-rated clips of actress Rozina and Arzoo in the 70’s.Widely viewed, they were also locally made.

Molvi Fazalur Rahman: I could not see them. Can you lend me those for a few days? I will get the copies and return them back.

Molvi Munawar: Please get a copy for me too.

Nargis: If you happen to see my dance, you will forget everything.

Aamir Liaqat: After the recording, please.

Molvi Munawar: They run huge brothel houses. The red light district of

Amsterdam is one of the largest in Europe. Is this not disgusting?

Molvi Fazalur Rahman: Yes sure! And I have seen girls from Muslim countries like Tunis, Algeria and Morocco being made to work in those brothel houses.

Dr.Shaitan: Sir nobody is forced to work in those brothels. All the sex workers there generally opt for the profession. However I do feel that no woman adopts this profession willingly even if she says so. As for size I suppose it is not as big as Lahore’s Heera Mandi and perhaps many of the girls there are forced into prostitution. However let me inform you that in the West these women have rights which no women enjoys in our red light areas.

Nargis: Do you know Heera Mandi has working stations everywhere in Lahore, right from Johar Town to Allama Iqbal Town, to Islampura, to Mustafaabad. So if you include the field offices it will be even bigger than the biggest red light area in Europe and America.

Amir Liaqat: You are right 42nd Street is just a small street in New York City.

Zaid Hamid: They also drink wine which is ‘haram’. They also indulge in fellatio and cunnilingus which is death of any morals whatsoever.

Dr.Shaitan: Sir I do not know if wine is ‘haram’ or not because nowhere in the religious text has it been declared so. Moreover ‘nabeez’ was a common wine which was widely consumed in the Arab Peninsula during and after the advent of Islam, even by some of the most revered personalities. As for oral sex, it’s a very private matter of one’s personal choice.

Zaid Hamid: But it is not allowed in Islam!

Dr.Shaitan: Ok then don’t do it.

Aamir Liaqat: I have reservations. Oral sex is allowed in Islam. The Sahih Hadith of Al-Muwatta Imam Muhammad argues that the ‘act is not impure.’ Scholars such as Muhammad al-Shaybani have also cited several opinions from Abu Hanifa an-Nauman. Dr. Heba Kotb, a Sunni female scholar who gives sex advice on Egyptian TV, says that oral sex is allowed ‘since there is no religious text banning it.’ The Malikis also allow licking stating that there is no harm in it, and it is not ‘makruh.’ Malik ibn Anas the Islamic jurist said that there is nothing wrong in it.

Farhat Hashmi: Abu Abdullah Bin Ismail Bukhari in ‘jild chaharam’ of ‘Sahi Bukhari’ has categorically allowed licking.

Nargis: ‘Please aisi baatein na karain mujhay sharam aa rahi hai.’

Molvi Fazlur Rahman: What does ‘Sahi Bukhari’ say about sex with a boy? I suppose we will be getting ‘ghilmans’ in ‘jannah’….

(Yahya cuts him short)

Yahya: Viewers we go on a commercial break. Stay with us.

(After the break) 

Ok so the West is on a suicidal mission and we are much better off than the West as regards morality. I think we have covered all areas of morality and I don’t think anything of any significance is left for discussion.

Dr.Shaitan: I beg your pardon sir! The real issues of significance have yet to be discussed. Does your concept of morality begin and end with women clothing and sex. What about respect for human life, attitude towards other human beings, courtesy and humility, compassion and kindness, care for the sick and support for the needy, patience and tolerance, forgiveness and rising above the trivial, adherence to law, respect for rules and regulations, modesty and decency, truthfulness, honesty, commitment to one’s profession, contractual obligations, respect for human rights, minority rights, animal rights, social security of the underprivileged, the preponderance of rational thought over raw emotions. Please go and see for yourself and you will find that these are the values which characterize modern Western society. Meanwhile do feel free to preserve your values of lies, intolerance, discourtesy, hypocrisy, cheating, adulteration, corruption, dishonesty, domestic abuse, child labor and vigilante justice. And make sure that ‘karo kari’, ‘wani’, acid throwing, and honor killing continue.

Dr.Shaitan addressing Zaid Hamid,Aamir Liaqat and Farhat Hashmi :

And look at your personal conduct. What have you done practically for the uplift of the poor and the downtrodden of our society except giving sermons for which you charge heavy amounts?

Dr.Shaitan looking towards Molvi Munawar & Molvi Fazlur Rahman:

And you strive for power and money through the ‘gateway’ of Islam. Your party Jamaat-e-Islami made billions during Afghan war and when the supply line came to an end, turned against the Americans. And Molvi Fazal Saab you sell party tickets and permits. And you are constantly touring Europe and the Americas on state expense just to have fun. You also perform ‘umrahs’ on your way back while extravagantly spending money squeezed from the poorest of the poor belonging to this ill-fated country.

What a shame! And you believe that you are qualified to determine the parameters of morality for the whole world. Please do some introspection and see where you stand before you judge others.

‘This man does not know how to address scholars and leaders.’ All participants cried in unison.

Yahya hastily concludes the recording.

Meanwhile the sounds of sirens are heard nearby. The producer enters the room and informs ‘a bomb has exploded in Jinnah Super Market causing several casualties. The injured are being rushed to the main hospital. Dr.Shaitan, the atheist, immediately takes off his mike, leaves the recording room and heads for the exit door.

Yahya: I think we can have tea or coffee in my room.

Aamir Liaqat: Don’t you remember Nargis promised to show us her dance.

Oh yes, everybody yells.

Nargis comes on the floor, takes off her sandals and the producer switches on the tape recorder. She starts shuffling on the song ‘manji ik tey jawanian do, way kathyan sona paya’

The entire panel gets deeply engrossed in her voluptuous moves. The music is hard and heavy and quickly muffles the sound of sirens emanating from the passing by ambulances.

Religion or Science

Almost after every prayer, five times a day and particularly after the Juma prayers, millions of Muslims in mosques and at homes, pray for the destruction of the ‘enemies of Islam’. This practice is going on for centuries, but today what we find is that the 'non-Muslims' of the developed world excel Muslims in every sphere of life, while the circumstances are fast worsening for the Muslims of the world.

The reason is simple-while the majority of Muslims rely on the supernatural and the metaphysical, a greater number of 'non-Muslims' in the developed world base all their inferences on naturalism, the foundation of science.

It was 1991, during the first gulf war that many of our top military generals were predicting defeat for the Americans, claiming that although the US forces were well equipped, they were not infused with the spirit of jehad which characterized the Iraqi armed forces.

The same predictions were being made during the Arab-Israel wars of 1967 and 1973. And 'fathe mubeen' was also forecast for Pakistani forces in all the wars including Kargil. What we find is total defeat for the Muslim forces at the hands of the ‘non-Muslim’ armies.

The reason is again simple: The 'non-Muslim' forces were better trained, better equipped and had superior leadership, whereas the Muslim armies were deficient in all respects.

Numerous students excel others in exams and achieve positions in various boards and universities in the Muslim world. When asked how they managed it, the response is almost always similar; 'it was due to the prayers of the parents and the efforts of teachers'. Now the fact of the matter is that almost all parents pray for the outstanding success of their children and teachers put in comparable efforts for the entire class. Then why is it that only some excel while others are left behind?

The answer, yet again is simple: Some of the students have better opportunities and are hardworking than the others. It is however pathetic that instead of taking the responsibility themselves they attribute it to an external factor, a value which the regressive culture imposes on them.

The time when every phenomena like the rising of the sun or the blowing of the wind was attributed to an act of God or gods is long gone. Similarly, ascribing every success or failure to a supernatural being is also history in the modern world. Science is fast replacing religion. As our understanding of the universe increases, lesser and lesser room is left for the gods to function and fill the gap. The Greek god Helios and his chariot became redundant when man came to know how the Sun moves as a heavenly body.

So, it is always the empirical evidence and the logical reasoning combined together to unravel the truth and not blind faith in a supernatural entity controlling everything.

Let us take the example of the mysterious deaths of more than a hundred people at the Punjab Institute of Cardiology. The deaths were not caused because the dead were any dear to God who wanted their early departure from this 'temporary' world or due to some magic, but because the drug namely IsoTab contained a large amount of an anti-bacterial ingredient which triggered an unknown disease in heart patients who consumed it. The finding, pointing to the presence of an unusual amount of the anti-bacterial was made in a British laboratory and not through an unexplained revelation.

One major problem with believing in something without evidence and reasoning is that there is no way left to judge whether one’s belief is based on truth or not. Hence, in order to support one’s belief one tends to be emotional and refers the matter to an unquestioned authority and not evidence. Believing in something supernatural is interesting, emotionally fulfilling and convenient.

On the other hand thinking logically is difficult while thinking scientifically is even harder, when you also have to support your assumptions with hard evidence. Moreover science has a dynamic character, whereas religious tenets and 'holy text' is extremely resistant to alteration in an ever-changing world, where you are constantly subjected to a new set of values. Secondly, religious postulates are not falsifiable. Hence if every phenomenon is attributable to god then it cannot be falsified and hence is not testable. Moreover, no advancement in medicine, engineering and metrology, etc, would have been possible 'if God does everything'. There had been no culture and no modern age.

Another big difference between science and religion is that in science if facts do not support the theory, the theory is modified. But in religion if the facts do not support the religious tenets, the facts are discarded right away. I recall one of my class fellows; while working on his PhD thesis obtained data which showed that there was no difference in the anxiety level of those you regularly say their prayers and those who do not. This fact was discomforting to him as he was a very religious man. So he manipulated the data to support his assumption; that those with religious inclination had, on the average, a low level of anxiety.

In our society it is almost unacceptable to question what the parents say as they had raised us. To challenge what the written word says is equally despised, as right from early childhood we are taught to respect the written text, for it comes from some authority. To defy what the teacher says is also not approved, as it tantamount to disrespect .The most uttered word in our classrooms is “silence”. Hence in a culture where traditionalism and religiosity has deep roots, it is extremely difficult to see natural phenomena in a scientific perspective.

Science and reason are self-correcting whereas adherence to a blind faith often leads one to inaccuracies and erroneous judgments. Dan Barker says that 'If faith is a valid tool of knowledge, then anything can be true by faith, and therefore nothing is true'. If the only reason you can accept a claim is by faith, then you are admitting that the claim does not stand on its own merits.'

Religious faith is the anti-thesis of rational thought and hence has no place in the modern world.

Robert Ingersoll (1833-1899), American politician and orator once said, 'When I became convinced that the Universe is natural — that all the ghosts and gods are myths, there entered into my brain, into my soul, into every drop of my blood, the sense, the feeling, of the joy of freedom. The walls of my prison crumbled and fell, the dungeon was flooded with light and all the bolts, and bars, and manacles became dust.'

INTERESTING !! STORY BEHIND YOUR DATE OF BIRTH

Hey this is really true and see it will work for you too

If U were born on the 1st, 10th, 19th, 28th of any month U r number 1....

If U were born on the 2nd, 11th, 20th, 29th of any month then U r number 2...

If U were born on the 3rd, 12th, 21st, 30th of any month then U r number 3...

If U were born on the 4th, 13th, 22nd, 31st of any month then U r number 4...

If U were born on the 5th, 14th, 23rd of any month then U r number 5...

If U were born on the 6th, 15th, 24th of any month then U r number 6...

If U were born on the 7th, 16th, 25th of any month then U r number 7...

If U were born on the 8th,17th,26th of any month then U r number 8...

If U were born on the 9th,18th,27th of any month then U r number 9...

Number 1

You are smart, straight talking, funny, stubborn, hardworking, honest,Jealous on competing basis, kind hearted, angry, friendly, authorities, Famous person... always want to be and regarded as first on people position, they are often like to be independent, will never be under others, self confident people!

You are most likely to fall in love in the younger age, but will get marry when you mature! You are likely to have problems with people who have opposite views

And you are most likely to take revenge over your enemies in a long time basis. You are a spender, but you will have a good profession in the future.

If you are guy you will be very popular that everybody will have mental attraction and respect at you. You can go anywhere from the local shop to the heart of the parliament because you are positive and well talented in numerous issues!! But in your life you will always have some people who will work hard to bring you your name down. This is undercover!! Coz of your smart behavior you will be hated by some people too...

Your family life is very cool, you will have a very nice partner wonderful children... You are pioneer, independent original...

Your best match is 4,6,8 good match is 3,7,9 !!!

note: if u dont share bad luck for 10 years it true please dont ignore

Number 2

No matter what, you will be loved by every one coz your ruler is the moon and every one loves the Moon. Well.. You are a person who day dream a lot, you have very low-self confidence, you need back up for every move in your life, you are very much unpredictable. Means you do change according to time and circumstances, kind a selfish, have a very strong sense of musical, artistic talent, verbal communication.

Your attitudes are like the Moon, comes to gloom and fade away so everybody can expect changes in you. You can be a next Mahatma Gandhi who does peace love or you can be a Hitler who wants to destroy the man kind and peace (I mean in the community and your own home).

If you really have a deep thought about your own believe in God you can feel the difference which will make you stronger! Most of the time your words are a kind of would be happening true! So without any knowledge you can predict the situation. You will become poets, writers, any Artistic business people!

You are not strong in love, so you will be there and here till you get marry.. If U r a girl you will be a responsible woman in the whole family. If U r a man you will involve in fights arguments in the family or Vice-versa. Means you will sacrifice your life for the goodness sake of Your family...You are gentle , intuitive with a broad vision, a power behind the scenes, well balanced People!!!

Your best match is 2 ,5 ,9 no other people can put up with you !!!

note: if u dont share bad luck for 10 years it true please dont ignore

Number 3

You are a person of hard hearted, selfish most of the times, religious, loves to climb up in your life. You always tend to have lots of problems within your family in the early stages but you will put up with everything.. You have the strong word power, pretty happy face.. So wherever you go always you have got what you wanted!!! And from the birth always wanted to work hard in order to achieve something.. You will not get anything without hardwork! When you reach a man/ woman age you want other younger once to listen to you because you want younger people to respect people older than them. You do set so many examples to others.

Generally you are not a cool person. It's not easy thing dealing with you. A tough player you are! But once you like someone's attitude then here you go, what can I say? It will be a lasting friendship. You always have respect from others.

Your life seems to have lots of worries and problems but sure they won't be long.. you will always have brilliant kids!!! You love the money a bit too much so temptation will push you to endless trying and trying.. If you are a guy then it's over. Looking after your family and help friends, so you will spend a life time just being generous and kind (except 21st born men). And number 3s you will

be such an example of how to be in the culture life!!! If you are girl then you have good character and culture hardworking attitude. You always follow.

You are a freedom lover, creative, ambition focused, a person who brings beauty , hope joy to this world!!!

Your best match 6 ,9. Good match 1 ,3 ,5 !!!

note: if u dont share bad luck for 10 years it true please dont ignore

Number 4

You are very stubborn too, very hard working but unlucky in important matters in life, very cool, helpful, you have rough word power.. Might put lots of people away from you, you may cause nuisance to others if you are a man, and you often understands others and their problems well. If you are a girl you are very good with studies and arts. If you are a guy you spend most of the time after girl friends (almost) at times, you will have sort of too much fun life with mates girls. Your friends will spend your time money and get away with their life and you will become empty handed and don't know what to do... So be careful!! You love to spend anyway!!!

Your good will is you are always there to help family and friends. Tell you what you people are little gem! s, specially the girls.. You always fall in love in younger age as well. You often live with disappointments, for an example you have got a degree in some thing... but you will be unemployed.. or will do very ordinary jobs.

But you will take care of your family very well...All you need to be careful of people who will take advantage of your kind heart. And beware of your relations too..

You are radical, patient, persistent,a bit old-fashioned, you live with foundation order...

Your best Match 1, 8. Good match 5 ,6 , 7 !!!

note: if u dont share bad luck for 10 years it true please dont ignore

Number 5

You are very popular within the community, you can get things done by just chatting..to even enemies! You have a pretty good business mind, you are often have no-idea what is today is like, or tomorrow is like, you are a person who does anything when your head thinks "lets do this". You will be famous if you open up a business, get involve in share dealings, music etc.. Very popular with sense of humor ,you are the one your friends and families will always ask for help, and you are the one actually get money on credit and help your friends. You will have more than 1 relationship, but when u get settle down you will be a bit selfish anyway. Coz your other half will have a pretty good amount of control in you, be careful! You tend to go for other relationships! Contacts even you are married at times 'coz your popularity..

You are someone who get along with anyone coz the number 5 is the middle number.. Changes freedom lovers you are! You are an explorer with magic on your face. You learn your life through experience and it's your best teacher!!!

Your best match 1 ,2 ,9. Good match 6 ,8 !!!

note: if u dont share bad luck for 10 years it true please dont ignore

Number 6

Ooopppss..you are born to enjoy.. You don't care about others. I mean you are always want to enjoy your life time, you are a person.. You will be very good in either education or work wise or business management! You are talented, kind (but with only people who you think are nice), very beautiful girls and guys, popular and more than lucky with anything in your lives. All the goodness does come with you. Your mind and body is just made perfect for love.

You are lovable by any other numbers. But if you are a number 6 man, you will experience kind of looks from most girls and will involve in more than few relationships until you get married. If you are girl, most of you will get marry/engaged early. You are a caring person towards your family friends .

If you miss the half-way mark then you are about to suffer physically and mentally. Generally you will lead a very good inner-home happiness with nothing short of. You are a person of compassion, comfort fairness, domestic responsibility, good judgment, and after all you can heal this world wounds to make peace for every life coz you have the great power of caring talent to make this world of love one step further...

Your best match 1, 6, 9. Good match 4, 5 !!!

note: if u dont share bad luck for 10 years it true please dont ignore

Number 7

You have got the attraction to anyone out there, you are realistic, very confident, happy, such a talented individual with your education, music, arts, singing, and most importantly acting too. You have real problems with bad temper! If you are a girl, you are popular with the subjects listed above.

You give up things for your parents. I mean you value your family status a lot, you will be in the top rank when you reach a certain age. If you are a guy you are popular with girls, you are a very talented too. Most of the number 7s face lots of problems with their marriage life.

Only a very few are happy. You have everything in your life, but still always number 7s have some sort of unfullfilness, such worries all their lifetime.

It's probably the Lord given you all sort of over the standard humans talents and you are about to suffer in family life. So you need to get ready looking for a partner rather than waiting. If you don't, then you might end-up single. So take care with this issue, ok?

You are wonderful, friendly, artistic, happy person.. You are born to contribute lots to this world!!!

Your best match is 2. Good matches are 1,4 !!!

note: if u dont share bad luck for 10 years it true please dont ignore

Number 8

You are a very strong personality, there's no one out there will understand you. You are very good at pointing your finger at some thing and say "this is what".

You are more likely to suffer from the early ages. I mean poverty. If your times are not good you might lose either of your parent and end up looking after your entire family. You often suffer all the way in life.

The problems will not allow you to study further, but you will learn the life in a very practical way. You are the one who will fight for justice and may die in the war too. You are normally very reserved with handful of friends and most of the time live life lonely and always prepared to help others.

Well. once you get married (which is often late) then your bad lucks will go away a bit and you! u become safe. You will face un-expected problems such as :

the error, government, poisonous animals, accidents.

You are some one with great discipline, persistence, courage, strength which will take you to success. You are a great part of a family team. You are a fighter!

Your Best match 1 ,4, 8. Good match 5 !!!

note: if u dont share bad luck for 10 years it true please dont ignore

Number 9

Hey...you guys are the incompatibles people in the world. You are so strong, physically and mentally... You are often have big-aims. You will work hard and hard to get there. Normally you suffer in the early age from family problems and generally you will have fighting life.. But when you achieve what you have done, it's always a big task you have done! You are so much respected in the community, you are a person who can make a challenge and successfully finish the matter off.

You are very naughty in your younger age, often beaten up by your parents and involve in fights and you seemed to have lots of injuries in your life time. But when u grow you become calm and macho type.

Love is not an easy matter for you. You are good in engineering or banking jobs coz people always trust you.

Your family life is very good, but will have worries over your children.

Your such qualities are humanitarian, patient, very wise compassionate.

You are born to achieve targets and serve every one all equally without any prejudice.

You are totally a role model to anybody in the world for a great inspiration.

Your Best match 3, 5, 6, 9. Good match 1

The Importance of Having True Friends

Once upon a time, a lonely hawk lived on a tree by the riverside. He was young and handsome but he had no friends.

One day, he saw a beautiful she-hawk sitting on a tree and wanted to marry her but the she-hawk refused to marry him, as he had no friends.

“Will you marry me if I make three friends?” – he asked. She said that she definitely would.

The hawk then went looking for friends. While flying on the other bank of the river, he saw a huge tortoise. The hawk flew down to him and said, “Dear tortoise, will you be my friend and help me in my hour of need?” The tortoise agreed to become his friend and said, “Call me whenever you need me and I shall come to your side.”

The hawk also promised him his help at any time and then flew in search of the second friend. Soon, he came upon an osprey. The hawk went to it and asked her if she would be his friend and help him in time of his need. The osprey very gladly accepted his friendship and offered her help whenever he needed it.

The hawk was glad that he had made two friends.

He went on searching for a third friend. He flew over the jungle and saw a tiger. Fearless as he was, he went near the tiger and requested him to be his friend. The tiger readily accepted his friendship and said, “From now onwards, I am your friend. Nobody will harm you. If anyone tries to harm you, call me and I will be there to help you.”

The hawk was very happy. He thanked the tiger, flew back to the she-hawk and said, “I have made three friends, a tortoise, an osprey and a tiger. Will you marry me now?”

The she-hawk agreed to marry him. Soon, their marriage took place. The three friends attended the hawk’s marriage.

After some-months, she-hawk gave birth to two baby hawks. The parent hawks were very happy to have cute little babies. They lived happily in their nest.

One day, two hunters came and sat under that tree. They were tired and hungry. They had not been able to hunt any animal. They decided to catch some fish. But, they couldn’t catch even a single fish.

It was getting dark and the hunters decided to spend the night under that tree. To keep themselves warm, they lit a fire. The fire soared high. The hawk-babies on the tree could not bear the heat and the smoke coming out of the fire. They started crying. The Hunters heard their cries. One of them said, ”There are birds on this tree. Let us catch them. We shall roast them on the fire and eat them.” The other one agreed.

The hawks heard them and were really worried about the safety of their babies. The she-hawk suggested that they seek help from their friends. The hawk went to the osprey and told her his problem. The osprey said, “Go home and protect your babies. I shall tackle with the hunters.”

The osprey dived into the river and then flew over the fire. The water from her wet feathers fell on the fire. She repeatedly dived into the river and flew over the fire. The water from her feathers put off the fire.

The hunters decided to light the fire again; however, as soon as they lit the fire, again the osprey put it off.

In the meantime, the hawk went to get help from the tortoise. When the tortoise heard about the hawk’s problem, he said to him, “Do not worry dear friend, I will be there in no time and tackle the hunters in my own way. Go and protect your family.”

The hawk flew to the tree and the tortoise reached the tree. He went quite close to where the hunters were sitting and trying to light the fire again. The hunters saw the tortoise and one of them said, “Look there is a huge tortoise. Let’s forget about the hawks and catch this tortoise.”

The other hunter agreed and said, “Let’s tear our shirts and make a rope. We shall tie its one end to the tortoise and other to our waists. Then we will pull the tortoise with all our strength.” The other hunter liked the idea. Soon, they make a rope out of their shirts. They tied one end of the rope to the tortoise’s legs. Then, trying the other end to their waist, they could not pull the tortoise. The tortoise’s strength was much greater than the two hunters were together.

The tortoise pulled the two men into the water. Once, inside the water, it was very easy for the tortoise to drag them. With great efforts, they cut the rope that was tied to their waist and swam back to the bank. They were now feeling very cold. They had lost their shirts. They thought of making a fire again.

Seeing them collecting leaves and twigs, the hawk was worried again. He flew to the forest and called his third friend, the tiger. He found the tiger at the edge of the forest. When the tiger heard the hawk’s problem, he immediately rushed towards the riverbank.

The hunter had now lighted the fire and one of them was preparing to climb the tree to get the hawk babies. Just then, the tiger reached the tree. Seeing the tiger, the hunters ran from there and never came back again.

The hawk thanked all his three friends for their kind and timely help. He also realized that it is very important to have at least a few friends. The female-hawk was very wise in advising the hawk to make friends before marrying him.

How to Stop Worrying

When you were small, your parents told you “You need to think about your future. What are your plans?” And when you were pretty relaxed in your response, the folks said something like this, “Aren’t you worried about how your life may turn out to be?”

At least that’s what my parents said. No offense Mom, Dad :)

Being parents, they were probably doing what they were taught to do. They were learning by example all these years of their growing up. They followed what their parents said and were merely “worried” for you, their beloved child.

Or think back when you were supposed to sit an exam. Friends and well-wishers most often said, “Don’t worry, you’ll do alright”. That implied you must be worrying before they soothed you.

I often think why humans give such a damn about worrying. What is worrying and how does it manage to take away 6.5 years of an average person’s life? And what would it take to stop worrying?

The Fake Connection between Worrying & Being Responsible

Somehow, culture has brainwashed us to believe that if you don’t worry over something,anything, you’re not being responsible. You’re doomed as one of those who live an aimless life where life is just play, nothing serious.

Or maybe you’re someone who is low on confidence and has given up entirely. A quitter frowned upon by passers-by who are on the treadmill of instant worry. Any happiness that worries have is “earned” happiness, whereas you don’t deserve it at all.

In reality, your worrying has nothing to do with your level of responsibility (or happiness). In my profession, I see clients every day who are chronic worriers but hardly take 100% responsibility for their life.

More often, it’s the opposite – people who are driven, goal-oriented, smart and optimistic choose to focus on things within their influence and turn them around if they are not happy with what they see. If that’s not being responsible, I don’t know what is.

And guess what? These people don’t have the inclination or time to worry too much because they are busy sculpting their life as they want it to be.

Worrying Serves a Secondary Gain

All behaviour is based on reason. You’re doing, acting, thinking, believing in things because that works for you on some level. It may not be conscious, but it’s there.

Because think about it: If worrying gets someone the attention they crave, why would they stop? On a conscious level, they may genuinely want to stop. But unless they realize worrying is a barter for their attention-craving behaviour (“attention” being equivalent to “love” in some people’s dictionary), they won’t let it go. It’s going to be a classic case of war between the conscious and unconscious mind.

This person will bring their story with them everywhere they go.

Awareness is 95% of the journey. Become aware of the secondary gain you’re getting out of worrying first. Is it support from others? Sympathy? Getting problems solved? Look beneath the surface – you’ll know when you’re there.

As you become aware of the secondary gain, it becomes easier to take conscious action. Your conscious and subconscious mind will work together like charm. It’s like getting everyone in your team to like each other – finally!

How to Stop Worrying: Delay Instant Gratification from Worrying

Now that you understand two key reasons worry is so popular, let’s focus on how you can stop worrying.

It feels you’re doing the right thing by worrying about things. You get this satisfaction that you’re doing something to achieve your goal. This feeling of worthiness after worrying (because it somehow “proves” that you care about stuff in your life) is only an illusion.

By worrying, you’re actually spinning your wheels. It would make sense then to fool your subconscious – that is conditioned over the years in believing worry is good – and promise it the lolly if it behaves as a good girl. So you delay the instant gratification of the illusive feeling of worthiness by promising yourself you’ll worry about it later.

Many people use a “Worry book” for this. This is how it works: When a pesky thought hijacks your mind and prevents you from being productive and confident, you write that thought down in the worry book and promise you will come back to it at such and such time. You set aside a “worry hour” where you can worry your heart out, but not just yet.

This tricks your subconscious mind into believing you are still being the good girl or boy by continuing to worry, thus keeping the old belief intact that worrying yield good. But really, you’re training it to be someone that’s confident in their own abilities and don’t need the crutches of yucky thoughts!

Come back to the notebook at a time when you’re feeling extremely good about yourself and you’ll find these past worries don’t really matter. You overpower them! Or perhaps you can simply choose to forget coming back to it. But hey, you are still taking notes so technically, you’re committed, yes? :)

How to Shoot Up Your Personal Productivity

Each person has their own definition of personal productivity. For some, it means getting things done in a short time frame. For others, it could mean ticking off goals that they can achieve their long-term objectives.

As someone who works from home most of the time, I soon realized I’d have to change the way I worked. Have you had ever had that sinking experience where you look back at the day and reflect how little you’ve achieved? I can relate.

There would be so many days where I’d go “Hmm. . . so I checked emails, replied to some, researched on the project I am working on, took lunch break, came back and surfed Facebook, answered some more emails, got that piece written, researched some more. . .and that’s pretty much it”.

Ouch.

And I’d have so many of such days where I‘d feel distracted. By the time it was time to leave my home office, I’d be on a treadmill of work and try to get as much as I could done in whatever little time I was left with. What a lame strategy!

Then it clicked. . . I was probably getting more out of distraction than I was out of work! Sounds horrendous but is true. My so-called tasks were not aligned with my values and aspirations for the future. On top of it, I wasn’t taking a proper inventory of time-eating activities.

How I Super-charged my Personal Productivity

So I decided to take a long, hard look at what was working and what was not, and what I wanted to do about it. To get clarity, I applied the following steps and what came up was shocking to say the least.

1. Start a detailed time log

I got this technique from Steve Pavlina. Steve has been my first Internet PD “crushes” if you know what I mean.

This technique is super-simple yet it helps you to shoot up your productivity several times. To better manage your time or get things done more efficiently, you keep a detailed time log and make a note of everything you’re doing during the day. Record whenever you start and stop an activity. If you checked emails for 15 minutes, mention the start and stop times. If you surf the Internet from 2 pm to 2:33 pm, note that down.

By the end of the day, you bring all the activities in relevant categories and basically figure out where you’re spending the most time. When I first started using a detailed time log, I had categories such as Checking emails, Research, Project-related communication with client, Blog posts and so on.

Now that you have your whole time expense laid out, find out how you’d like to change it. When I first tried this exercise, I was surprised to find that I could get a good portion of work in a small amount of time, yet I was “busy” for the whole day. Guess where the remaining time was spent – on irrelevant activities!

Try it out for yourself and take inventory of your time to get a real idea of what’s going on. Only when you’re aware of it you can change it.

2. Check in with yourself

If most of your time is spent not working but trying to work, chances are you tasks are not 100% aligned with your goals. I remember when I was working at this marketing agency in 2011. It was a well-known agency in Melbourne and a very fast-paced one. The company was doing well and we had several clients. I was excited to be working with such a well-known brand.

However, just after a month, I realized I was forcing myself to tick off tasks at work. At work, I would love to grab a break, but my sheer need to be productive kept me going. But once I was home, I was exhausted. I would reflect back on my day and acknowledge I got so much done, but never felt happy or proud of my efforts. Instead, I was exhausted and unhappy dreading to get out of bed the next morning for work.

It didn’t took me long to figure it out – I was getting things done alright, but deep down, I was not passionate about the kind of work I was doing. The projects on my desk didn’t inspire me.

I quit that job after working for 2 months. Many months later, I elicited my values and found two of my top most values are freedom and flexibility which were clearly not met in my agency job. I wasn’t cut out for a 9-5 cubicle gig after all. I had entrepreneurship written all over me. What’s more, my vision and aspirations agreed with this in harmony.

It’s possible that you have a great personal productivity going for you, but it does not feel sustainable. You get a lot done during a day but you don’t have the drive to continue. Perhaps just like me, you thought productivity would motivate you. But being productive alone doesn’t help – you must be inspired with the work you’re doing on a daily basis as well.

And that means there’s nothing wrong with you. It’s likely that you don’t need fixing – your current to do list does!

3. Set meaningful + actionable goals

Write down your vision, mission and purpose in life. If that sounds too much, just begin with where you’d like to see yourself in next 3 years. If that’s overwhelming, visualize the next year. Build it from there.

Or if you’re a detail-oriented person, define your ideal average day. If today were your ideal average day, what sort of tasks would you be doing? What assignments would you enjoy? How and how much money would you make?

Chunk up from there to next year, next 3 years and so on. (Please refrain from answering I’d be on the beach doing nothing – that sounds great to do for a while, but it won’t keep you happy for long because happiness comes from a sense of purpose.)

Once you’ve got an idea of your life vision, break it down into actionable goals. Choose the way of SMART goals – it’s an easy and efficient system that works. Don’t worry about having the perfect vision because you can always change it. The important thing is you start somewhere.

Think about the bigger picture in order to come up with small steps. Evaluate the tasks you get done during your working hours. Ask yourself: Why am I doing this? If your answer is anything but pointing toward your vision, quit doing it.

4. Achieve your goals

Now that you’ve identified your goals, your focus should be getting started on with them.  This is where the nitty-gritty comes into play. There are many strategies to achieve your goals. To do lists are one, but they don’t allow you to prioritize. Steven Covey’s time matrix is great for prioritizing and scheduling. Each quadrant in the matrix can consist of tasks with the end date next to it. The quadrant becomes a mini to do list in essence.

Small, steady wins will help you go a long way. Scheduling and prioritizing go hand in hand.  But be aware of overflowing to do lists; that could get overwhelming. At any point, keep focus on a few goals that are immediate, not urgent but important and long term.

Personally, I use the app weekplan.net. It’s free and allows you to mark a task as “Important”, “Urgent”, both or none.

5. See how far you’ve come

While you’re busy being productive, don’t forget to stop and acknowledge yourself for how far you’ve come. Slow progress is also progress. Remember that. The small tasks that you get done add toward your personal productivity big time.

Feel free to reward yourself after ticking off an important goal and before you start on the next. Acknowledgement acts as a motivational boost and pushes you further on the right track.

Personal productivity is really not as complex as some people think. It’s a perfectly achievable thing. Follow the steps above or come up with your own to evaluate your time spent, get in touch with your core values, set actionable goals and achieve them and applaud your efforts on the way.