How To Judge People Fairly

Once upon a time, three blind kids who have never heard of an elephant, were taken near to the elephant. First kid who touched the elephant from the tail commented that elephant is hairy and thin. Second kid who touched the elephant from legs concluded that elephant is very fat and  unmovable thing. Third kid who touched the elephant from the trunk said that elephant is a curvy moving object. Do you think any of the kid said the right thing? Do you think that instant comments by any kid was a right approach? Do you think you behave just like blind kids, that is, giving instantaneous conclusive comments about people instead of judging them properly. In fact, sometimes you behave worst than that. You associate things with people which are never supposed to be concluded in that way. Sometimes you do character assassination of people and put their respect on stake. Isn't it unfair? So how to judge people? Here are some points to be considered:

1-    Be positive. Even if you notice any negative thing about someone. Don't conclude about it. There is a chance your brain is thinking against the reality. Don't let your brain cook bad curry. Explore the negative observation extensively but avoid spying on someone. Be straight and be upfront.

2-   Physical appearance is not everything. Don't judge people by their looks. A person in normal clothes and in a normal vehicle might be better than a person in brand new Mercedes or BMW. On the contrary, a rich man can also be equally a great person.

3-   When judging people look for the Ethical richness  such as honesty, truthfulness, simplicity, behavior, friendliness, down-to-earth attitude etc. 

4-    A fly will always sit on the dirty and rotten part of the tomato. Never do this in your life. Every person has good and bad habits. Look at the positive side of things. If you feel something wrong, talk about it but don't spread negative info about someone. Hate the bad habit, not the person.

Judging a person does not define who they are… it defines who you are !

The Dog In The Well

In old times, there was a village having only one well for drinking water. One day a dog fell down in the well and died. The water became filthy and undrinkable.  The worried villagers went to the old wise man for advice. They were told to take 100 buckets of water from the well so that clean water come to the surface of the well. The villagers took 100 buckets but water status was same. They went to the wise man again. He suggested to take another 100 buckets. The villagers did the same but to no avail. They villagers tried third time to take another 100 buckets as per the advice from the wise man but water was still impure. The wise said, How come the whole well is polluted even removing this much considerable amount of water. Did you remove the dog body prior to taking 300 buckets of water? The villagers said, "no sir, you only advised us to take water out, not the dog body.

Several times in life we try to resolve our problems without considering the root cause of the problems. We believe that we are resolving the problem whereas in actual we are working on the side effects of problem not the problem itself. We don't see the big picture to understand the root of the issue.  We take advice from our well wishers but do not use our brain to think logically to analyze the advice and then decide ,instead, we start acting blindly on the solutions suggested by others.

How to Keep People Around You Happy

Keeping people happy is one of the signs of God's presence in your heart because spreading and ensuring happiness around you is the a human-nature-based instinct which is concretely linked with Universal principles of God.

Making people laugh for a short span of time is not to be considered as keeping them happy altogether because laughter is just a sub-set of happiness. You might make person giggle or feel good with by a joke, a sitcom, a nice instant comment but this feeling is for a very short span of time but keeping people happy for long terms is your real achievement because it indicates a permanent demonstration of your character trait for possessing high degree of care and love for others.

Dawson's Creek

Little Girl: After tonight, I'm avoiding growing up at all costs.

Joey: Sounds good...let me know if you have any luck.

L: Aren't you supposed to be arguing the other side? Convincing me that

growing up can be such a beautiful experience...if I just LET it?

J: I see...you want the, "I'm older than you, so here's how it works

speech," right? How's this? ...Growing up sucks. And not all kisses are magic, and most boys, do NOT live up to your expectations. But...there are those times when everything, I mean...love, romance, relationships, life...it all falls together perfectly and...it's incredible. 

And it's those moments, no matter how DEPRESSINGLY few and far between...that make growing up worth it.

LESSONS FROM NOAH'S ARK

Don't miss the boat.
Build on high ground.
If you can't fight or flee---float!!
Two heads are better than one.
For safety's sake, travel in pairs.
Stay below deck during the storm.
Don't forget that we're all in the same boat.
Don't listen to critics - do what has to be done.
If you have to start over, have a friend by your side.
Plan ahead ... It wasn't raining when Noah built the ark.
Take care of your animals as if they were the last ones on earth.
When things get really deep, don't sit there and complain--shovel!!!
Remember the woodpeckers. An inside threat is often bigger than
the one outside.
Speed isn't always an advantage. The cheetahs were on board but
.. so were the snails.
Stay fit. When you're 600 years old, someone might ask you to do
something REALLY big.

FRIENDS

In kindergarten your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have the red crayon  when all that was left was the ugly black one.

In first grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to the bathroom with you and held your hand as you walked through the scary halls.

In second grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the   class bully.

In third grade your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you   when you forgot yours on the bus.

In fourth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to switch square dancing partners in gym so you wouldn't have to be stuck do-si-do-ing with Nasty Nicky or  Smelly Susan.

In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.

In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to Nick or Susan, your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be   embarrassed.

In seventh grade your idea of a friend was the person who let you copy the social studies homework from the night before that you had forgotten.

In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball cards so that your room would be a "high schooler's" room, but didn't laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears.

In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to that "cool" party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there.

In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch.

In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded, consoled you when you broke up with Nick or Susan, and found you a date to the prom.

In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college, assured you that you would get into that college, helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go...

At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you.

Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of the two choices, holds your hand when you're scared, helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer, stays with you so that you have confidence, goes out of their way to make time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, helps you deal with pressure from others,smiles for you when they are sad, helps you become a better person, and most importantly loves you!

A Samurai and a Zen Master

A samurai, a very proud warrior, came to see a Zen Master one day. The samurai was very famous, but looking at the beauty of the Master and He said to the Master, "Why am I feeling inferior? Just a moment ago the Grace of the moment, he suddenly felt inferior. 

I have never felt like that before. I have faced death many times, and everything was okay. As I entered your court suddenly I felt inferior. The Master said, "Wait. When everyone else has gone, I will answer. " 


I have never felt any fear - why am I now feeling frightened?" 

People continued the whole day to come and see the Master, and the The Master said, "Come outside." samurai was getting more and more tired waiting. By evening the room was    empty, and the samurai said, "Now, can you answer me?" 

It was a full moon night, the moon was just rising on the horizon. And and there has never been any problem. The smaller tree has never said he said, "Look at these trees. This tree is high in the sky and this small one beside it. They both have existed beside my window for years, to the big tree, 'Why do I feel inferior before you?' This tree is The Master replied, "Then you need not ask me. 

You know the answer." small, and that tree is big -- why have I never heard a whisper of it?"

The samurai said, "Because they can't compare."