How To Win Argument Anywhere

It can be difficult for people to get their point across without hurting one another in the process. Here are some tips for effectively resolving a problem by stating your views, while being collected and reasonable. Also included are tips on winning an argument. 

1. Stay calm Keep a steady low tone. The energy you give off is usually picked up on by the other person; if you are calm they sense you mean no harm and relax more. Even if you get emotional, try to keep your dignity and dont lash out unexpectedly. Also consider your tone of voice; try to keep a steady, low tone and volume not fluctuating to much in speed and sound. Try to sound as relaxed as possible and avoid high pitched sounds. Also consider your body language; have a good firm posture that makes your feel powerful but not aggressive. 

2. Don't insult the other person. Avoid to, in any way, say something that might be taken as an insult. When people are angry they are much more sensitive and will take even the smallest comment as an insult.

3. Express that you are willing to listen to the other person and respect them. Even though you might not agree with what the other person is saying you need to remember that they might feel just as strongly about their views as you do about yours.

4. Be reasonable. The outcome of the argument might not be exactly what you wanted, but never expect to get everything you want. Don't let it last too long, the argument degrades if it's held out. Allow each person to speak and make their point.

5. Set healthy boundaries. If the person with whom you are arguing is angry, obnoxious or verbally abusive, should you really be interacting with them? It may be better to walk away.

6. If the argument is with a clerk, salesperson, etc. ask to speak with their supervisor. If a supervisor isn't immediately available, get a phone number.

7. Think about the possible arguments for and against your side, and the opposite side. If there is any major weakness in your argument, you must fill it before coming to a confrontation with the opposition, or risk losing the argument.

    

8. Identify any major pitfalls your opponent can step into. A gentle nudge here and there to get them to make some sort of fallacious statement that allows you to close the bear trap is psychologically damaging and can win an argument on the spot. Also try to take each argument to its logical conclusion.

    

9. Always take full advantage of any illogicality or fallacy in your opponent's argument. Return any illogical points with as many relevant logical facts as possible, to completely quash their point. If this is not possible, take their point and use it in your favor logically.

    

It's always possible to lose an argument, especially if your argument has major weaknesses. Accept it if that the case. However, arguments do sometimes come to standoffs, where no side is stronger than the other and nobody wins or loses. when this happens, learn to leave the argument as nothing can be gained by continuing to confront your opponent. When this happens, don't lose control or get desperate.

Creativity And Art

How To Judge People Fairly

Once upon a time, three blind kids who have never heard of an elephant, were taken near to the elephant. First kid who touched the elephant from the tail commented that elephant is hairy and thin. Second kid who touched the elephant from legs concluded that elephant is very fat and  unmovable thing. Third kid who touched the elephant from the trunk said that elephant is a curvy moving object. Do you think any of the kid said the right thing? Do you think that instant comments by any kid was a right approach? Do you think you behave just like blind kids, that is, giving instantaneous conclusive comments about people instead of judging them properly. In fact, sometimes you behave worst than that. You associate things with people which are never supposed to be concluded in that way. Sometimes you do character assassination of people and put their respect on stake. Isn't it unfair? So how to judge people? Here are some points to be considered:

1-    Be positive. Even if you notice any negative thing about someone. Don't conclude about it. There is a chance your brain is thinking against the reality. Don't let your brain cook bad curry. Explore the negative observation extensively but avoid spying on someone. Be straight and be upfront.

2-   Physical appearance is not everything. Don't judge people by their looks. A person in normal clothes and in a normal vehicle might be better than a person in brand new Mercedes or BMW. On the contrary, a rich man can also be equally a great person.

3-   When judging people look for the Ethical richness  such as honesty, truthfulness, simplicity, behavior, friendliness, down-to-earth attitude etc. 

4-    A fly will always sit on the dirty and rotten part of the tomato. Never do this in your life. Every person has good and bad habits. Look at the positive side of things. If you feel something wrong, talk about it but don't spread negative info about someone. Hate the bad habit, not the person.

Judging a person does not define who they are… it defines who you are !

The Dog In The Well

In old times, there was a village having only one well for drinking water. One day a dog fell down in the well and died. The water became filthy and undrinkable.  The worried villagers went to the old wise man for advice. They were told to take 100 buckets of water from the well so that clean water come to the surface of the well. The villagers took 100 buckets but water status was same. They went to the wise man again. He suggested to take another 100 buckets. The villagers did the same but to no avail. They villagers tried third time to take another 100 buckets as per the advice from the wise man but water was still impure. The wise said, How come the whole well is polluted even removing this much considerable amount of water. Did you remove the dog body prior to taking 300 buckets of water? The villagers said, "no sir, you only advised us to take water out, not the dog body.

Several times in life we try to resolve our problems without considering the root cause of the problems. We believe that we are resolving the problem whereas in actual we are working on the side effects of problem not the problem itself. We don't see the big picture to understand the root of the issue.  We take advice from our well wishers but do not use our brain to think logically to analyze the advice and then decide ,instead, we start acting blindly on the solutions suggested by others.

How to Keep People Around You Happy

Keeping people happy is one of the signs of God's presence in your heart because spreading and ensuring happiness around you is the a human-nature-based instinct which is concretely linked with Universal principles of God.

Making people laugh for a short span of time is not to be considered as keeping them happy altogether because laughter is just a sub-set of happiness. You might make person giggle or feel good with by a joke, a sitcom, a nice instant comment but this feeling is for a very short span of time but keeping people happy for long terms is your real achievement because it indicates a permanent demonstration of your character trait for possessing high degree of care and love for others.

Dawson's Creek

Little Girl: After tonight, I'm avoiding growing up at all costs.

Joey: Sounds good...let me know if you have any luck.

L: Aren't you supposed to be arguing the other side? Convincing me that

growing up can be such a beautiful experience...if I just LET it?

J: I see...you want the, "I'm older than you, so here's how it works

speech," right? How's this? ...Growing up sucks. And not all kisses are magic, and most boys, do NOT live up to your expectations. But...there are those times when everything, I mean...love, romance, relationships, life...it all falls together perfectly and...it's incredible. 

And it's those moments, no matter how DEPRESSINGLY few and far between...that make growing up worth it.

LESSONS FROM NOAH'S ARK

Don't miss the boat.
Build on high ground.
If you can't fight or flee---float!!
Two heads are better than one.
For safety's sake, travel in pairs.
Stay below deck during the storm.
Don't forget that we're all in the same boat.
Don't listen to critics - do what has to be done.
If you have to start over, have a friend by your side.
Plan ahead ... It wasn't raining when Noah built the ark.
Take care of your animals as if they were the last ones on earth.
When things get really deep, don't sit there and complain--shovel!!!
Remember the woodpeckers. An inside threat is often bigger than
the one outside.
Speed isn't always an advantage. The cheetahs were on board but
.. so were the snails.
Stay fit. When you're 600 years old, someone might ask you to do
something REALLY big.